I have always classed myself as a positive kind of person. I try to smile as much as I can and enjoy my life as much as possible. But occasionally even I have a wobble, and yesterday I wobbled so much I nearly fell over!
I have been having problems with Monkey and the potty now since she started nursery 5 weeks ago. She woke up the morning she started school and it was as if a switch had flicked inside her! It started that morning and hasn’t stopped yet….
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not an occasional accident (that I could deal with.) It’s full on up to 5 times a day. Sometimes she will use her potty, sometimes she won’t! There appears to be no rhyme or reason behind the accidents. Nothing seems to trigger it and it isn’t down to a health problem.
It is times like this that I find being a single mother so hard! I have no back up, no support and no soundboard. It’s just little old me trying my best to figure out what is happening, and what to do about it for the best. I have tried EVERYTHING!
I have ignored it, I’ve shouted at her, I’ve treated her when she has done well, I’ve stopped treats when not, I’ve taken advice from friends, I’ve asked the teachers, I’ve had a urine sample done (in case of infection) I think I have pretty much tried all there is to try…
So yesterday I gave in! I broke down and cried as got us all ready to go to the cinema. I couldn’t bear the thought of her wetting the seat in there, so did what I said I would NEVER do… I took a step back and put her back in pull ups!
THAT was when I realized I was alone, a single mother, a completely useless one who doesn’t know what to do. I had no one there standing by my shoulder to give me a cuddle or to help me. No one to tell me it will be ok, no one to split the problem with, no one with authority to make Monkey sit up and take note. JUST ME!…
Today is better! Today I feel more positive! Today we have had no accidents… YET! Is there anyone out there who can help a single mother? Someone who can give me a bit of advice that hasn’t already been said? Something to stop me standing in front of my daughter opening and closing my mouth like a demented goldfish, not knowing what to say or do next. Do you have the answer I need?